How Average Guys Can Succeed in Online Dating
How Average Guys Can Succeed in Online Dating
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Online dating can feel rigged against you. The algorithms, the competition, and the ghosting all stacks up fast.
But here’s the truth: unless you're a Quasimodo-looking mofo (and odds are you’re not), there is a systematic way for the average guy to break through and start getting real matches.
This post breaks down how you can give yourself a fighting chance.
Understand the Market You're Competing In
Understand the Market You're Competing In
Online dating is the most accessible playing field for modern dating. But that accessibility also means massive competition. Every guy with a phone and internet is in the same game, and only a few are winning.
Here’s how the online dating market works:
ELO Score / Algorithm Visibility: Each profile gets a hidden score based on how attractive it is to users. More inbound likes and successful matches push your score up, which gives your profile better visibility.
Superficiality Rules: Photos, bios, and small pieces of text are all women have to judge you by. You’re basically submitting a resume for someone to date you, and most guys are sending in sloppy, low-effort applications.
Most men post:
Basic, poorly lit photos
Boring or overly try-hard bios
Irrelevant or filler content (like pet pics or car shots)
This leads to mass rejection in a short time span, and the algorithm buries your profile. But it’s not a personal flaw. It’s a marketing issue.
Fix your presentation, and you change your results. Even one better photo can break the zero-match curse.
Your Profile Is a Digital Product to Sell
Your Profile Is a Digital Product to Sell
Treat your profile like a product page. It’s not you . It’s a virtual representation of you. And in a visual-first market, photos are your #1 asset.
What Makes a Photo High-Performing?
✨ Be Attractive (maximize your look):
Confident facial expression
Flattering pose and posture
Clean, styled outfit
Great lighting and composition
Light touch-ups without catfishing
🌍 Seem Interesting (show range):
Different locations and settings
A mix of candid and posed shots
Show personality through action (not just "stuff")
Highlight real hobbies with you in the frame
Minimum Standard: At least 6 strong photos with variety in look, outfit, and background for Hinge.
You can take solid photos yourself with a tripod and timer, but hiring a photographer can elevate everything. And yes, your first photo must be your absolute best. Think 3/4 body shot with the cleanest look possible.
Craft Prompts That Don't Kill the Vibe
Craft Prompts That Don't Kill the Vibe
Prompts and bios rarely get you matches, but they absolutely can lose you matches.
Avoid:
Cringe humor or sarcasm that doesn’t land
Dry, resume-style personality descriptions
Excessively transparent or vulgar content
Instead:
Write like you’re a chill guy with a bit of flavor
Show some social calibration (you get how people talk and joke)
Lean into your unique vibe without oversharing
Keep it fun, light, and open-ended. That’s enough to build curiosity.
Outcompete by Outpresenting
Outcompete by Outpresenting
Most average guys are losing not because of who they are, but how they show up on apps. You can stand out just by doing the basics right:
Upgrade your photos
Write casual, engaging prompts
Avoid the common pitfalls that tank most profiles
Think of it like this: The dating market is the same for everyone. But most guys show up with lazy profiles. You? You’re about to show up with purpose.
You don’t need to be model-tier to win. You just need to be better than the average guy, and that bar is low.
The best part? Once your profile is strong, that’s 90% of the game right there. Now you have matches, conversations, and chances to connect. Everything after that is just execution.
And if you want help building that standout profile, you know where to find me.
Stay based.
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