Do Girls Get More Matches on Tinder? (The Truth in 2025)

Everyone’s heard the rumor: women get way more matches than men on Tinder. You’ve probably seen screenshots of girls with hundreds of unread likes or TikToks bragging about endless Super Likes. But is that still true in 2025 — and if so, what does it mean for guys trying to stand out?

The answer is both yes and no. Women still get more matches overall, but the gap has narrowed. Tinder’s algorithm, verification systems, and smarter filtering tools have changed how visibility works. The real story isn’t just about who gets more matches — it’s about why. Understanding that difference is what separates frustrated men from the ones who win consistently.

Let’s start with the obvious: yes, women still get more matches than men. The reason isn’t mysterious — it’s mathematical.

Tinder’s user base still leans male, with roughly 70% men to 30% women, depending on the region. That imbalance alone means every woman’s profile receives far more exposure. Combine that with men’s tendency to swipe right more often, and you have a recipe for inflated female match counts.

But quantity doesn’t mean quality. Most of those matches are low-effort swipes from men who swipe right on almost everyone. Women get flooded with attention that doesn’t translate into meaningful conversations. That’s why most women ignore 80–90% of their matches — the interest isn’t genuine.

For men, that’s actually good news. If you can present yourself as selective, intentional, and well-composed, you’ll stand out from the sea of mindless swipers instantly.

Getting more matches might sound like a dream, but it creates its own problems. Women often deal with decision fatigue, message overload, and a lack of meaningful engagement. It’s like walking into a party where everyone’s shouting at once — eventually, you just tune out.

Many women now swipe less frequently or ignore new matches altogether because it feels overwhelming. Tinder calls this “engagement burnout.” As a result, even though women receive more matches, they respond far less often.

Here’s what that means for men:

• The competition isn’t for getting matches; it’s for keeping attention.
  
  

• Your first photo, message, and profile tone matter more than ever.
  
  

• A smaller number of high-quality matches beats 100 unresponsive ones.
  
  

So while women win the numbers game, men can win the conversion game — turning fewer matches into actual dates.

Tinder’s algorithm doesn’t favor women or men; it favors engagement. It studies user behavior — how often you swipe, reply, and get replies. If your activity drives interaction, Tinder promotes your profile to more people.

Because women naturally receive more swipes and messages, they tend to score higher on engagement metrics by default. But men can close that gap through strategy.

Here’s what boosts male visibility:

• Logging in daily and replying within a few hours.
  
  

• Writing bios with personality and emotion (not one-word fillers).
  
  

• Consistent, confident activity — not deleting and restarting your account constantly.
  
  

Tinder’s 2025 update added an “interest-based compatibility” layer that prioritizes people who have genuine overlap in lifestyle and habits. That means well-crafted bios, honest prompts, and varied photos aren’t just nice — they’re data points that improve your algorithmic ranking.

The biggest mistake guys make is assuming that success equals having lots of matches. But Tinder’s best results come from quality control. You don’t need hundreds of matches — you just need a few with real potential.

Women may get more matches, but most of them are low-effort. Men who understand this realize they don’t need to compete on volume. They compete on impact.

You win Tinder when:

• Your matches actually reply.
  
  

• Conversations move toward dates.
  
  

• You filter fast and efficiently.
  
  

A guy with 10 strong matches will outperform someone with 100 ghosted ones every time. The goal isn’t more — it’s better.

Here’s the brutal truth: Tinder, like most modern dating apps, operates on a visibility hierarchy. The top 10–15% of men (those with sharp photos, clear energy, and social calibration) get the majority of likes. The rest compete for the leftovers.

This isn’t because women are shallow — it’s because the app presents limited information. Photos, tone, and presentation are all users have to go on. So women swipe based on perceived confidence and trustworthiness.

You can climb into that top tier by fixing presentation:

• Get professional photos that show your lifestyle, not just your face.
  
  

• Smile in at least one photo.
  
  

• Avoid low-effort or “red flag” shots like gym mirrors or car selfies.
  
  

• Use your bio to express personality, not defensiveness.
  
  

Tinder’s algorithm doesn’t know how attractive you are in real life — it only knows how attractive your profile data looks. The better you optimize it, the higher you rise. 

From a woman’s perspective, Tinder can feel exhausting. Many women sign up with excitement, only to delete the app weeks later after being bombarded by low-effort or inappropriate messages.

In 2025, women’s expectations have evolved. They’re not impressed by volume; they’re impressed by emotional intelligence, humor, and presentation. The “fun guy with good photos and normal energy” has become a rare find — and that’s exactly why you can stand out.

Women often complain that “no one interesting messages them.” Translation: 95% of their inbox is copy-paste openers. If you can write one thoughtful, profile-based opener, you’re already different.

The modern female Tinder user isn’t rejecting all men — she’s filtering out low-quality effort. That means your attention to detail is your biggest advantage.

Forget likes and matches — the real metrics that determine success on Tinder in 2025 are response rate, conversation depth, and date conversion. Those numbers define how Tinder ranks you and how women perceive you.

You can’t fake those metrics, but you can influence them:

• Use emotionally expressive language (avoid robotic texting).
  
  

• Ask interesting, low-pressure questions.
  
  

• Avoid “texting forever” — move toward a real date when rapport builds.
  
  

• Keep consistency: ghosting drops your internal score instantly.
  
  

This is why some men with fewer matches still meet women consistently — because their engagement metrics are strong. Tinder’s algorithm rewards meaningful activity, not passive matching.

Instead of complaining about match disparity, smart men adapt. They realize the bar is low — and that most competitors are sabotaging themselves. If you just show effort, you’ll already look like the exception.

Practical ways to win the game:

• Stop swiping mindlessly: Be selective; Tinder learns from your patterns.
  
  

• Treat your bio like a headline: Specific, confident, and human.
  
  

• Rebuild your photos every few months: Stay fresh.
  
  

• Lead early in conversation: Momentum creates attraction.
  
  

The men who win on Tinder in 2025 aren’t the best-looking — they’re the most intentional. The ones who play the long game instead of chasing quick validation.

Yes, women still get more matches on Tinder — but that doesn’t mean they’re winning. Most women get overwhelmed, disengaged, and frustrated by shallow attention. Most men get discouraged by low response rates. Everyone loses when they chase numbers instead of connection.

The truth is that Tinder in 2025 rewards effort, authenticity, and clarity. Stop measuring success by match counts and start measuring it by how your interactions feel.

If you’re tired of guessing why you’re not getting the results you want, I can help. As an Asian dating coach and professional dating app photographer, I teach men how to build profiles that convert and conversations that actually lead to dates.

👉 Book a discovery call today and stop comparing your match count — start improving it.